How the meaning of friend and friendship changes with tym.

Change is the only constant i heard....yes it is,for everything changes every time and all that remains constant is the "change".
people change,habits change,we change,relations change,friends change...though it might sound offensive but its true even friends change,there r only a few friends that continue with your journey...they might leave ur company due to various reasons...mentality difference as one grows up,communication gaps or even jealousy.
love,smile,hate,fun,envy,tears,madness,fights,enjoyment,birthdays,surprises,boyfriends,girlfriends,missing u,i m there,what happened?,dude,i m screwed!!,fu** off!....these r words that u can relate to only one person...YOUR FRIEND...who else??
This is one relation that u get to choose...yes!!(sumtyms parents might censor that)
heres how i went making friends in the first 18 years of my life i ranchi......(sorry if i miss out anybody,i love u all)
an ode to them before i leave ranchi!
1998- i remember entering those biggggg gates(i was too short then) of loreto convent ranchi,dint realize this was where i was going to find my family!! as i left mums hand,i was guided towards a classroom. 2 "A" i remember,with a Chinese class teacher and various faces of my new classmates...i was very scared to be in between them..when a tall girl came upto me and asked if i wanted to be her friend.i dint know if i was being morally correct or if it was instantaneous,i said a yes. she was shabnam,my official first friend...and slowly i made more friends...of which i rem only two more names,shradha n suchi. that tym..friendship meant sharing crayons,eating lunch together,going to the swings together or infact even accompanying each other till the washroom gate!!
2000-now this was the tym when we were getting over crayons and colouring,we started getting competitive,we knew we had to study and be the teachers favorite...i had made some new friends,sangya,snigdha and pooja...but this was also a tym when the whole class was your friend coz u were good at studies and their parents had taught them to be frnds with gurls who are future nerds..
2001-5th standard, the time when the feeling of competition had been implanted well in us by our parents,yet some of the innocent ones had a very different life than studies...my favorite friend was shivalika..i rem for the first n the last time in our lives we cheated!!the simple surprise geography test tht had sent chills down the spines of most of my classmates,gave me a beautiful friend shivalika..we shared all our happiness(we werent big enough to realize the pains)..the crafts that we made,the movies tht we discussed(devdas n k3g,rem?),the scribbles that transformed into good paintings...n the history notes that we rotted together!!
2001 was the year when our group was formed...me,shivalika,shabnam,khushboo,shradha,suchi,srity,pooja and akanksha...
so we got lots of friends to accompany us to the washroom doors!!
2003-we were almost teens,the sweet little girls had grown up to be in their gawky phase of life...7th standard,when i was the only one to be shifted to 7th B and all my friends to 7th C.i dint know this was going to effect our friendship,we were too stupid to realize grave things like this.competition was at its height..where it was very hard to find true selfless friends...when i found roshnii..it was an instant click,both of us bubbly ones full of excitement...we shared the same crush..DANIEL VETTORI!!!..for us then,friendship meant eating lunch together,handling the unwanted elements of our class together,sharing our little secrets,preparing for exams,taking part in all the extra curricular activities .....all done together...yess we still accompanied each other till the washroom doors...in between i forgot to mention,our group changed again...it was me,suchi,shabnam,roshnii,akanksha and shivalika(though she was too much engrossed in her harry potter,she was still considered a part of our group)
2004- the new class,the feeling of doing something with life.8th std.- studies the toughest yet.and the time actual group ism started and friends became foes,when cute little gurls turned into almost ladies,with conspiracies,gossips,controversies and more!
one fine day in the early days of the session,i met this girl called jahanavi.she was a new entry to our batch as she could not give final exams due to her grandfathers death and was expected to repeat the year..being the monitress i was supposed to help this beautiful,quite girl who once was my senior n i really feared her...but she was not what i thought her to be...she turned to be my best friend then..and we hardly separated...huh! the washrooms door was the only place we parted... so here friendship for us was the best way to escape the horrors of teenage..the feelings of rebellion,the anger in us,the new interests in us...we all escaped these through our friends.. Our group now turned to me,akanksha,roshnii,shabnam,suchi and jahanavi...this was the last modification..and then it became static.
2005,2006-A lot of things changed...the groupism had dominated and we became such good friends that we could give our life for them.In the year 2006 i remember,i saw that the best of all that i had,the best of all ppl i knew,there was only one person i couldnt ever pretend infront of..that was roshnii.i just loved the change in her..from a little self obsessed selfish young teen to a beautiful(both internally n externally) ,matured,loyal and helping friend...we shared a lot of moments together..some of them being the best ones in my life.
in addition now,i had some guy friends too...deepak ,nitin and abhishek...and i realized i share a good rapport with guys..whatever the world or the society think it to be..we were great friends!and yeah..we rocked! i was a complete tomboy till then...NOw friendship meant more,it became the most prior thing in life,now we bunked together,studied together,did NSP together,had coffees together,cried together...started sharing our pains(we were big enuf to realize them now)...a broken heart,the first love(for some of my frnds),the firstt breakup,the first real scolding from parents,the first suicide pangs,the first time want to run away from all the parental pressure for studies,the first boards came n went,the torture after the results... all happened so fast...and we stood by each other,helping each other.ME,ROSHNII,SHABNAM,AKANKSHA,JAHANAVI and suchi(though lost in her own world)
2007-The first time we realised that we wont be able to accompany each other to the washroom doors! our schools had changed..all in different ones.the first time i entered the gates of DPS,it dint look big to me any more.the petty green gate tht stood behind me,never did i want to enter it.this place was all so differnt!!i remembered when i went to my class the first day,i saw girls and guys from different parts of india literally.i dint think i could survive,ppl were so different from me..i tried once again,as i looked through the classmates,i hit upon two faces...one of a guy,with black shining naughty eyes and a permanent grin and one of a girl with beautiful eyes and a very beautiful face...then i turned my face away."ke sera sera" was what i thought...
slowly i made some friends,but they were not what i called friends...my friends were there out in the other classrooms of the city going through the same anxiety.one day,as i sat in the class,a saw a familiar face peeping in...a loretian face...shrishti!! we had group rivalry in loreto but i never had any personal problems with her.as she came to the class,i made her sit beside me...i introduced her to my friend,rem the one with the beautiful face? ansha..so here we were,me,shrishti and ansha..new frnds accompanying to the washroom door....wait a minute,the guy with the naughty eyes,nilesh and a friend of mine from an old computer tuition,ayush...and one more entry,the nerd of our class..adarsh. that completed our group..me,SHRISHTI,ANSHA,(the bathroom pals),NILESH,AYUSH AND ADARSH. AND DPS STARTED ROCKING!!! the green gate,i started loving it.we attended skool everyday,quite uncommon for people in the plus two classes.Friendship had new meanings now.. all kinds of pranks that we could,laughing in the class,mocking at some wierd teachers,making fun of ansha ke "deewane"...studying together and the phone..yes the phone was a very integral part of life now..the only thing missing now was competition,we never competed against each other! i mean here,when everybody else was having cut throat competition with everybody else,we were here a bunch of friends who were real friends..this waas a very shocking thing,we cheered wen adi came first,we cried wen once ansha scored low in phy,we helped shrishti in organic (she hated it like u hate sania mirza ),we even worked hard to get over my maths phobia together,we scolded nilesh wen he failed,we revolted wen ayush got less than what he deserved,we cheered again wen i got 91% in boards and when adi cracked jee and when nilesh made thrugh clat and wen shrishti's parents allowed her to do what she wanted,fine arts...we were always there for each other...and lifes most pressurized two years flew so smoothly with lots of studies n lots of fun!
here in the picture,i miss one name,who was never in the scene directly..rishabh,one guy that studied in my school and yet was my net friend..we never met in school neither did we ever try to take it further away from yahoo messanger!...i know there were a lot of misunderstandings and group rivalry between his and my friends but yet we liked talking to each other....
and then skool finished!
and then the droping year with allfriends in all corners of the country...yet never felt lyk they were away...even if it meant not talking to them for weeks,still we clicked off with the same intensity...and then rishabh became more than a yahoo messanger frnd,we realized we could be best buddies!! and here i m....
2010- as i leave ranchi,the place i got all my friends..i would like to thank all of u ppl for being a part of my life for letting me be a part of yours....i hope i get friends like you in college, those whom i can cherish all my life!!! love you all. ....and specially the ones who gave me constant support for the past one year of my life...the most difficult one.. kudos to SHRISHTI,ANSHA,NILESH,RISHABH AND ROSHNII.(NOT IN ORDER OF PREFERENCE,PLZ!)
And thanku to all who make a part of my frndlist,i know its a little too early but i would also like to thank rituraj(who changed my opinion about nerds),anurag(the one i can say all the stupid ideas i have n i wish to do in life,the one who taught me to take it lite.:-) ) and atul( the one i cannot just stop myself frm blabbering infront of...can tell him all types of things i feel..) and aman( the only girl i can really talk girly things with n the one who i know definitely understands my feelings)
A BIG THANK YOU TO EVERYBODY!!